Have you ever realized this?
If you really stop and listen to all of us women, you will hear the girls with straight hair wanting curly hair, and the girls with curly hair wanting straight hair. The tall girls wanting to be short and petite, the short girls wanting to be tall and gracefull. The introverted girls wishing they could come out of their shells a little more, the extroverted girls wishing they weren't always "on".
Why are we never happy with what we've got? With what we are?
Why do we look at other women and wish we had something that they've got? You may know the girl, or she may be someone who just passed by you on the street. But none-the-less, we're all wanting something different.
Something happened the other day to bring this to my attention. And I wanted to share here.
There is a girl that I work with...she's a few years younger, she's from a wealthy family, she's very attractive and put together. She wears the best clothes. Has her toes french manicured. She was a sororiety girl. She looks 100% in a swimsuit. Her skin is golden tan. On top of all of that though, she's fun. She's respectful. She's interesting. She's educated. You look at her and you really think, man, she's got it all. She's the kind of girl you really want to hate, but you can't help but really like her. What must it be like to be her?
The other day, we were all standing around talking in our department, and she brought up that she hates her butt. That it's so dang flat, she wishes she had more of a bubble butt. Like mine. I almost fell over. Here I was thinking that I'd like to have her's because it is so flat, and she's trying her hardest to get rid of the flatness.
It really got me thinking. WHY do we define "beautiful" by what every other woman has? Even those girls who appear to have it all, even they define it away from themselves. No one is exempt!
It must be an ingrained trait, and that means it can be reversed!! Who's with me? Let's find beauty in OURSELVES...let's celebrate the fabulous women we all are. Stop looking at others with envy and enjoy YOU...we've got to start somewhere!
4 comments:
OH I love this post Kelley!! And you hit it right on!!
Here are a couple of things I am feel are beautiful about myself (and believe me this wasn't easy to say! I seldom feel beautiful about anything.)
My Eyes
My Smile
My Small feet
Aww, that feels good! I get compliments all the time about my eyes... and in school one of my teachers nicknamed me *smiley* because he said I smiled all the time and had a pretty smile. And.. I just like my feet... which is VERY Strange because I really DON'T like feet in general. lol
I love this post too! I've had people tell me occasionally they like my hair and I'm just shocked, because as you know, I think my hair isn't that great. But I'm learning to embrace it!
Things I like about myself are my eyes, my smile and sometimes my hair. (Not copying Kim, I promise! I loathe my feet, they are gross.)
Baby,
You are right on the money with this post. Discover the beauty that you already have, because there is plenty of it there.
It is great that you have realized that even the ones who seem "perfect" really aren't satisfied with the way they look, and still wish they had features that other woman have (ie. the bubble butt).
Like I have always told you, you are amazingly beautiful. I wouldn't change one single that about you...unless, of course, you could transform into Charlize Theron. :)
{You know I am kidding with you}
I love you, beautiful!
I totally agree with you, we really need to focus on finding the Beauty within Ourselves rather than focussing on what others have.
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